Trying to get support

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at a setting I have worked in we had a child who obviously needs additional support, some of their behaviour has been a major cause for concern for the parents (and their insurance company) at an extreme level, (fairly extreme violence, no perception of danger- resulting in fires, runaway, nearly run over) the family have put measures in place to help but they arent always enough, I always think we need to address the issue as well rather than try bubble wrap the world. physically there are differences in movement and development.They have got support from speech therapy as the child is 3 but cannot yet talk, we have noticed strong signs of other problems and feel we have some known solutions to those, we want to get a statement but we need more support, the parents also wish for this support and openly communicate however this is rather a delicate issue and we, and they, have been told we have to wait til the child is at least 5 before this will be considered for assessment, surely this is not right! staff are struggling and other children and the child themselves' at risk, along with adults who I have to safeguard too. Without a statement we are not eligible for additional support I believe we need for this child and this child needs in order to develop. I feel we are totally failing by not doing more, this has to be a safeguarding issue for everyone but we just get told by agencies we have contacted we are handling it well and to continue what we are doing, this is simply not enough! Has anyone else hit this brick wall and if so what is the next move? this is a struggle for us all and although I have been trained in dealing with some disability issues, and pick up on symptoms (which seems pointless if when you do there is nowhere to go with them) I wonder if this is a bit too much for us with so many other children to consider and the ratios we need to maintain for them, I love the child and the family and dont want to let them down, this is more than just a biosterous 3 year old.